Introduction
Love is a very complex word that everyone tries to interpret by their own means. Maybe as you are reading this you already think of someone, all of us have felt or shown love. But most of us failed to have the love that we need, some people really love a person who doesn't love them, and most of them just hide the feelings and tries to forget it. But did you know that in some means we can manipulate the mind of someone to like us more? But ofcourse you must be sincere in order to properly deploy this tactics. I created this article to help other people who have difficulties of expression their self to the people they like, and for those who know nothing about courtship.The Law of Association
Remember those times when you are not in a good mood? Even if someone will offer you something good there is still a chance that you will refuse, right? But when we are somewhat happy or excited we tend to ignore slight bad happenings. This is the first psychological loophole that we will try to exploit. If you want someone to like you more then try to talk or hang out with him/her when his/her mood is good or if he/she is excited. By exploiting this positive stimuli, you will be associated with that event and if you do it right he/she will remember you again the next time he/she feels the same feeling even if you're not in that moment.But what about if she has a problem? Well that's out of this law, it's just a matter of common sense if you will talk with her for long even if she is in a bad mood, try to give her some advice and cheer her up then give her some space to think. It would not be a good idea to be always in the side of someone, you might end up in the so called "friendzone" where she just treat you as a friend and that would likely remain even if you told her what you feel.
This law simply tells you to take the chance whenever you see that she is happy or excited about something try to exploit the chance, talk and make her laugh as best as you could. Personally I can say that this works, yes, I used this technique to have an advantage over a girl that I love where in fact she has a suitor who is courting her for almost two years.
Law of Scarcity
The law of scarcity states that the more we can't obtain something the more we wish we have them. For example, Gold and Oxygen, we can't live without oxygen or air but we value more golds and precious gems. This is because oxygen is available everywhere (atleast for now) while gold is very scarce that only people with money can have them.This is one of the mistake in my generation, they think that showing obsession towards the people they like will give them a better edge of showing the same feeling. If you really like someone to have a positive feelings towards you then try to make yourself "scarce", maybe show to them that you have another priority in life rather than love or (for girls) you need 5 months of courtship before you can decide about that matter.
Law of Reciprocal Affection
This law states that we tend to feel the same on how people feel about us, for example, if someone hates us for no reason we tend to hate them too in that way. And if someone compliments us for being good in class or in work we tend to have a positive feeling towards that person too. With this law we will exploit their feeling by simply telling that you like her. Does this contradict with Law of Scarcity? No, definitely no, with law of reciprocal affection you will just simply tell her that you like her and that's it, don't show obsession or aggressiveness about what you feel about her. At the moment she knew that you like her, she will unconsciously feel positive to you too, or in best cases, she might start to develop feelings towards you.Similarities
This is a common mistake that we hear, they say that people with opposite personality are more compatible with each other. The truth is that people with similarities can easily get along with each other, and they can share common thoughts and feelings. So if you want to know more about someone, consider telling her the things that she likes too, for example you like computers and books but she love books and fashion, try to talk more about books rather than showing what you know about computers, which most people would likely to do.Law of Contrast and Association
This law deals with the right way to meet someone for the first time, first impression is a very risky part. The law of contrast and association states that when we meet someone with companion we tend to judge them by the people around the, that's why there is a saying "Tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are", when meeting someone, it will be a good idea to bring a companion with you with good physical aspect and personality BUT don't bring a companion with the same sex that is more attractive than you. If you're a boy try to bring your closest girl friend as companion but make sure she has a good personality and would make a good impression, if you did this right one of the first impression that she would see is that you know how to respect woman which is a good thing. For girls maybe bringing your bestfriend during the first meeting is also a good idea, but always clarify the relationship between you and your bestfriend to the guy you just met because it might give a negative impression.
A little favor is everything
This is a psychological loophole that we usually can't see, when someone ask a "little" favor (opposite sex) we tend to have a positive feeling towards them specially if the favor is not that big, or it's just an easy task. Whether you're a boy or a girl, try asking or forcing them unconsciously to do a little favor for you, something like asking to use his/her phone because your phone's battery is empty, asking to borrow or pen or anything, but don't abuse it just ask for a very little favor. It also unconsciously inject the thought that you are "open" with each other, that she can also count you in when he/she needs a little help (that would apply to the law of association too).Law of consistency
The law of consistency mainly deals on how we can know more about a certain person. This law states that when we do a small favor we tend to accept similar but larger form of favor in the future. A group of homeowners tried to ask home owners to put a huge "Drive carefully" sign in front of their yard, only 17 agreed to have that sign, they tried the same experiment but now with a smaller sign, a three-inch sticker with "Be a careful driver" to put in their window. Nearly all of them agreed to have the sticker, after few weeks they asked the home owners again if they would like to put the huge "Drive carefully" sign, and surprisingly almost 76% of them agreed. So how can we apply this law? When it comes to "getting to know each other" stage it is important that we know all important details about a person, you can try starting with the basic questions like her birthday, favorite foods and etc, then later ask some more serious questions like her status and views about relationship, her feelings about you and etc.You're not perfect
The sense of being "perfect" is mostly the biggest mistakes of nearly all men and women, we tend to show that we are good at everything. Study suggest that admitting that you're wrong about something is a good thing, not only you show sportsmanship, you also show that you're not perfect and you're a real human. Laughing at your mistakes is a good way to escape shameful mistakes rather than doing non-sense excuses about that event.Repeated exposure
Have you notice how advertisements today works?They just put their name everywhere and anywhere they could, even if it's just their logo or just the color that can represent them, no message no gimicks. This is because of the psychological loopholes in our mind, we usually trust something that we already know or always know, we always see "Coca-Cola" everywhere so if we are to choose between Coca-Cola and a softdrinks with not so popular name we will surely choose Coca-Cola products right? This is because we already trust them by seeing their names everywhere. How can we exploit this law without breaking the law of scarcity? Always talk with her in any way possible but in a friendly and non-obsessed way, maybe always ask her if she's okay or try to make excuses just to talk with her even through phone or any possible way that you can talk with her always. But don't disregard the law of scarcity when exploiting this law.Matching postures and speech
This is a minor but can be an effective way of talking with someone to build a rapport. Matching your postures and speech will greatly help the interest between the two of you, so for example she starts to speak faster (maybe she's happy or excited) then try to speak in the same rate too but not in obvious way that you are mimicking her, if she tries to cross her hand try to do the same too after some seconds (not obvious way). In this way she will feel more comfortable to talk with you because she unconsciously feels that you feel the same. What you are doing here is you're mimicking her body language, so if her body says that she's excited then try to mimic her actions too to show that you're excited too.Positive Attitude
Having a positive attitude will greatly improve your relationship with someone, try not to show sadness (unless it's necessary) or negative thinking while talking with her, always show the bright side of you.Gazing into eyes
Looking directly in the eye of someone will make her feel more connected to you, and if you're telling some story to her try to look in her eyes (not in an annoying way), in this way you can show your seriousness and sincerity of what you are saying.
Review
Everything I mentioned above will not work if you don't trust yourself that you can do it, to love someone is to love yourself first. Also the sincerity is important, it's hard to pretend about what you feel and you might do something wrong if you're using this for fun as we are dealing with psychological loopholes. Lastly, these laws are just "guide" and some of them might not work for a particular situation, just be yourself and you'll be fine.
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Source: Get anyone to do anything by David J. Lieberman
